Alot has changed in my neighborhood
25 Things To Do Before You Turn 25
1. Make peace with your parents. Whether you finally recognize that they actually have your best interests in mind or you forgive them for being flawed human beings, you can’t happily enter adulthood with that familial brand of resentment.
2. Kiss someone you think is out of your league; kiss models and med students and entrepreneurs with part-time lives in Dubai and don’t worry about if they’re going to call you afterward.
3. Minimize your passivity.
4. Work a service job to gain some understanding of how tipping works, how to keep your cool around assholes, how a few kind words can change someone’s day.
5. Recognize freedom as a 5:30 a.m. trip to the diner with a bunch of strangers you’ve just met.
6. Try not to beat yourself up over having obtained a ‘useless’ Bachelor’s Degree. Debt is hell, and things didn’t pan out quite like you expected, but you did get to go to college, and having a degree isn’t the worst thing in the world to have. We will figure this mess out, I think, probably; the point is you’re not worth less just because there hasn’t been an immediate pay off for going to school. Be patient, work with what you have, and remember that a lot of us are in this together.
7. If you’re employed in any capacity, open a savings account. You never know when you might be unemployed or in desperate need of getting away for a few days. Even $10 a week is $520 more a year than you would’ve had otherwise.
8. Make a habit of going outside, enjoying the light, relearning your friends, forgetting the internet.
9. Go on a 4-day, brunch-fueled bender.
10. Start a relationship with your crush by telling them that you want them. Directly. Like, look them in the face and say it to them. Say, I want you. I want to be with you.
11. Learn to say ‘no’ — to yourself. Don’t keep wearing high heels if you hate them; don’t keep smoking if you’re disgusted by the way you smell the morning after; stop wasting entire days on your couch if you’re going to complain about missing the sun.
12. Take time to revisit the places that made you who you are: the apartment you grew up in, your middle school, your hometown. These places may or may not be here forever; you definitely won’t be.
13. Find a hobby that makes being alone feel lovely and empowering and like something to look forward to.
14. Think you know yourself until you meet someone better than you.
15. Forget who you are, what your priorities are, and how a person should be.
16. Identify your fears and instead of letting them dictate your every move, find and talk to people who have overcome them. Don’t settle for experiencing .000002% of what the world has to offer because you’re afraid of getting on a plane.
17. Make a habit of cleaning up and letting go. Just because it fit at one point doesn’t mean you need to keep it forever — whether ‘it’ is your favorite pair of pants or your ex.
18. Stop hating yourself.
19. Go out and watch that movie, read that book, listen to that band you already lied about watching, reading, listening to.
20. Take advantage of health insurance while you have it.
21. Make a habit of telling people how you feel, whether it means writing a gushing fan-girl email to someone whose work you love or telling your boss why you deserve a raise.
22. Date someone who says, “I love you” first.
23. Leave the country under the premise of “finding yourself.” This will be unsuccessful. Places do not change people. Instead, do a lot of solo drinking, read a lot of books, have sex in dirty hostels, and come home when you start to miss it.
24. Suck it up and buy a Macbook Pro.
25. Quit that job that’s making you miserable, end the relationship that makes you act like a lunatic, lose the friend whose sole purpose in life is making you feel like you’re perpetually on the verge of vomiting. You’re young, you’re resilient, there are other jobs and relationships and friends if you’re patient and open."
— I’ve been pretty done most of this. I got one more year and change to go in though!
Second time around this was definitely an exercise for me. Unlike last time, I did not keep up with my posts and had to catch up and rush some of them. But I did learn new things about the other writers and enjoyed reading your posts.
It did kind of suck that many people started and then fell off within 10 days of the challenge. But it’s obvious that those who did attempt to participate do genuinely have a love for writing as many of them live that life daily outside of the challenge so it’s understandable that time can fly by and you may forget about it.
As I said in the beginning, I can’t force anyone to write. I barely had time to write myself. But I wanted to provide the space and the togetherness so we have the support group to write.
I want to give a special shout out to @BranTheDon_ and @MikeLivingston2, who are my favorite guys right now! They were the only two people other than myself that finished the challenge.
Mike gets the rookie award of the year award. Your posts were always insightful and enjoyable to read and I hope you join again when I bring the challenge back for the third time.
Bran, I’m proud of you. This is your second time around and you definitely get Most improved and the MVP award for not only sticking it out to the end, but for submitting your entries on time for most of the days.
What can I say? Guys who write, and write well I must add, or always A+ in my book.
Also shout out to @ThisIsBrittneyF and @adelleplaton, who I saw trying to catch up in the end! :D I’ve worked with both of you and I know you both go hard at what you do outside of this so no worries. There’s always next time.
And even though they didn’t really participate (lol sorry I had to call you both out) thanks to @Rell_Republic and @AngryWriterGirl for asking me to bring the challenge back. @Stassi_X thanks for bringing a bunch of people on board to the hashtag as well.
Everyone else. It’s not over yet! There’s more.
In the meantime, I’m excited to take the young writer gang to the next level by doing a meetup with everyone. There are many different types of writers in our group. Some have been doing it for years. Some went to school for it. Some of us are students, journalists, comedians, fiction writers, poets, film, etc. So it’ll be great to get that creativity in one room and have us all chop it up.
The first meetup will be in NYC. It will be May 30. Save the date. And hit me with your e-mail if you want to come through.
Until the next challenge, keep reading and writing goodness.
When I read yall Twitter statuses about meaninglessness.
I also waste time when I daydream about meaningless. I’m happy to write this post because it’s reminding me of how I need to get meaninglessness out of my routine.
I have made major steps in combating meaninglessness when I deleted both my Twitter and Facebook apps off my phone.
I also can’t be bothered with meaningless people. And I don’t spend my money on meaningless activities as far as I see it.
Oh and here’s my favorite: I waste time when I talk about what I’m going to do or about to do, instead of actually doing it and talking about what I just did.
Everything is meaningless as long as it’s not bringing me forward.
Because time will move forward with or without me.
I can’t let go of the old days of Brooklyn. I miss the days pre-Barclays center. I was actually totally against it at first one I found out about it.
Brooklyn is now the second least affordable place in the U.S. And you may be thinking, it’s more expensive than Manhattan? How could that be?
The data is based on the income of the folks who live in the borough and whether they can actually afford the average rent prices. In Manhattan, there are many rich dwellers, who make the money to afford where they live.
But Brooklyn has always been where those working class folks could live and still be close to Manhatan with only a metrocard swipe and 15 mins on a train ride away.
Unfortunately the pockets of those who live in Brooklyn haven’t flourished as quickly as the rent prices. And as more “luxuries” come to the city’s best borough, more people will want to come who have the money.
Will I still be here in 15 years? I plan to be. I may not be able to survive off of just writer money. I’m not delusional in believing that my salary will be my only stream of income to have the life I want. So I’ll do what I have to do.
But yeah the rent is too damn high. And I love to see what the next mayor is going to do about it.
One of the most unimportant polarizing issues in culture within the last decade.
I’m guessing that reality TV has its roots in documentary style movies and news reporting, which are supposed to follow real stories and people.
But instead it falls more on the soap opera side where people go to lose their souls for the almighty dollar.
Besides the overload of Housewives and Bridezilla shows that make women look crazy, there have been some interesting more family - friendly shows I’ve enjoyed that were equally as unimportant, such as Wife Swap. Then there’s the few good ones such as the Home Makeover shows that always make me cry.
I don’t believe reality TV is going anywhere as people love to watch other people in pain.
These shows never lead to any resolution. And as long as they don’t the drama will continue and the big machines up top will continue cashing their big checks.
It is what it is until we decide we want better.
Definitely The Tipping Point by Malcolm Gladwell. This man can drive a point home. The book explores how big turning points occur in society, culture, etc.
Basically all tipping points are driven by mavens, connectors and salespersons.
Mavens are sharers of knowledge. They know about everything and pride themselves on letting people know what they know. They are experts.
Connectors know everyone and the right people. They bring people together.
Salespersons are those who are capable of selling ideas and making them marketable to the masses. They are gifted with making an idea practical (or at least making people believe it is).
When you have a maven in your corner, connector and salesperson together, a tipping point is inevitable. Find your place and make great things happen.
It has inspired me to do so.
I love wine. I used to sip wine and do my homework every night my senior year of college. I was going through sh8t. I also believed it made me a bit vulnerable in my writing.
But I stopped doing that.
Chardonnay is my favorite. Merlot is cool.
Wine is calming and more loving than other types of alcohol. It’s definitely more classy, intimate, potent and trusting, even for the lightest of the light weights and the holiest of the religious.
I hope to do something bourgeoisie like visit a vineyard for a wine tasting soon.
I used to take failure really really hard.
This is because when I want something I put my whole soul and being into it. So when I didn’t get it, I felt betrayed by the universe. Like God was purposely doing something unkind to me.
But I’ve learned that is far from the truth. As everything you want isn’t always what you need to have. Sometimes we have to direct our attention to something better.
I felt like a huge failure when I didn’t graduate with a job position. People thought I was lazy. My mom thought I wasn’t going hard enough. Everyone else around me seemed like they were winning. I was depressed. I went hard in undergrad, so I thought I should have had something waiting for me.
I told this story so many times. So I won’t rundown the events I went through from then to now.
But what I will say is that I am proud of that failure. It made me who I am. And I found a piece of myself that was missing during the process.